Live Like You Are Walking A Tightrope Across Niagara Falls

 

The other day, I wrote a post on “Getting Over Depression”, but for some reason, did not share it out there. I am all for sharing my experiences, and letting people out there who might be going through the same thing know that they are not alone. However right now, truth is, I am feeling alot less than an inspirational and a self help preacher. Still, stay with me, because you might still gain something out of this post on Living Life. And look, this is just how it is. Life journey at it’s best. Even during the down times, there is beauty in it. So if you are really going through a similar situation, just know that you are not alone. I can bet at least someone within your circle, someone whom you know might very well be going through the same thing.

Keep going.

I found that in the midst of life throwing lemons at you, one of the best thing to do is to keep going, and my way of keeping going is to get involved in something that I really enjoy doing.

I’ll be frank, my situation is abit of a precarious one. I have a love for many things, yet at the same time, at the moment, my current truth is I do not wish to be tied down to anything, or rather, I am not sure if I’d want to be.  After almost 2 years 5 months in, recovering from acute leukemia, I feel like I am like a baby chick just born into this world. Many choices, many decisions to make. It is a quest for myself to find out who I really am, what I want to do, what I really want to pursue, who I want to Be, and what I’d like to redefine myself to be.

Let’s face it.

I am no longer the same person I knew or thought myself to be.

It feels like a complete reborn, with past shackles slowly coming off me, and me redefining who I want to be. Life is a constant evolution, growth and expansion, and I am personally witnessing that for myself. While it can be extremely uncertain and the not knowing where I am going absolutely drive me nuts at times, I have to say that being an observer to my own life can be quite satisfying as well.

So here’s what I have been up to:

Engaging myself with what I love as much as possible 🙂

Learning to be a good photographer has been pretty zen to me. Despite the ongoing challenges, I love waking up to a new day – because I can’t wait to start setting up the scene for photo shooting even before breakfast. And given the fact that my current place has got bad lighting, I needed to take advantage of the morning 9am – 12pm sunlight and… I have been pleased with what I have achieved so far. Each day presents the challenge for me to do something different. Keeps me going, keeps me on my toes. Love it.

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Breakfast/brunch lately has been a special affair given the scenes I would have set up before hand for a photoshoot. When you finally sit down after about 50 takes of shots, it’s one of those moments where despite all that is going on, you just feel really grateful to be alive. Plus, the weather has been quite kind recently over here.

I do so love the mornings, when the occasional whisper of the morning breeze gently touches my face from time to time, always seemingly trying to remind me to stay present in the current moment where all the magic is.

 

That’s also where I learnt that Spirit, or a Higher Power speaks to you through Nature.

If you are open to hear it.

 

 

 

So here’s a simple, short little something of what I have since been applying into my life:

Live every moment like as though I am walking a tightrope across Niagara Falls. 

And no I am not saying to live in fear. What I really mean, is to be fully engaged with your senses, to be fully in the moment. When you are in such a risky situation, where a single wrong step can be fatal, that’s really the point when you will be fully, thoroughly, absorbed in the moment. 

 

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That’s the moment when you truly engage with Life.

 

 

 

Yet, you do not need such an intense situation to begin engaging with Life and its wonders.

In my experience, when I am fully absorbed in every action, fully present with all my 5 senses, that’s when I can truly see and feel the essence behind everything. Life becomes even more special. The trees look greener, the brown woody colour of my table looks even more enhanced. When I look out the window,  I sense the magnificence of the towering buildings which I have been looking at for the past 5 years, which was once just ‘another’ ordinary building to me. Everything around me looks even more 3D. That’s also what happens when you see something or someone who takes your breath away. Even just for that one instant.

I found that when you look at something without any conscious or unconscious inner commentary or judgement, when you become aware or conscious enough of the running train of your thoughts, it is when you begin to truly look at something, like as though you have seen it for the first time. Like as though you are looking at something with a new, fresh pair of eyes. Try this on a person and see what happens. It can be interesting. 

Of course, that is just my experience.

I always say to people, you cannot truly know something until you have tried it out for yourself.  Until it becomes your experience. Until it becomes your truth.

So begin by getting out of your mind, and don’t run away with your usual thoughts and the feelings which comes with it. They will be there  and you probably can’t stop them. But what you can do, is to just allow them to be. Look at your thoughts from the perspective of an observer in the background, but don’t judge them. It is what it is.

With enough practice, you might realize that you are thinking a thought, but that you can also disengage from it. When you do that, you will find that you can allow your thoughts, feelings to arise and be as they are, without letting them run your life, and taking you over. Also, often times, our thoughts, conscious and unconscious judgments mask up the true experience which you are meant to be experiencing in any given moment.

And in every present moment, there is much magic and power awaiting for you to realize it, and to know that to be so

 

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Simple Pleasures of Life and it’s Lessons

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Sometimes, when Life is a little bit more difficult to deal with, it’s far more easier said than done to try to appreciate the simple things that comes with daily life.

Life has been especially tricky with me, and the past 2 years of my life has not been the easiest. Other than going through a series of life challenges thrown my way, I have learnt so many things along the way, one of them include really growing up, and I mean, really,.. and while learning to grow up, also learning how to dig my heels into the ground and say ‘No‘.

Having been a person who was into inspirational quotes (and still is), and indeed, all my quotes came through during one of my life challenges when I was forced to be confined at home due to a treatment I was doing to heal my condition (confinement, and quarantine do, do you wonders.), what I have found is, it will, if you are able to absorb the message of it. But for some of us, or even more specifically so, me,.. during other types of life challenges, those darn inspirational quotes not only didn’t bloody work, but they made me even more pissed at the world.

Oh well. Life is as such.

But see, the thing is, sometimes, there is beauty in the horrible, ugly side of Life. What I have learnt, is that most times, when I struggled and experienced one of those dog-gone tantrums and inner conflict was because I didn’t trust my heart and go along with the first feelings which arises even before the entire situation came into full throttle and slaps you across the face when you realized that you were right all along.

Sometimes, it’s really that easy. Maybe we got to learn to trust ourselves much more.. I bet you might be saying, well, I decided to trust myself,.. and I got myself into trouble. Well yes, if you consider people disagreeing with you and being upset with your thoughts, opinions, and decisions, trouble. Perhaps we ought to distinguish between trouble, and growth. As written in one of the books from my favourite author Neale Donald Walsch, Conversation with God Book 2. (No it’s not the kind of God that you know. You’d probably either really enjoy and have a good laugh with this book, or recoil in absolute shock and horror haha.)

A lot of people whom I know considers me as someone who knows a great deal of spiritual growth, and someone who is very much equipped with the New Age and spiritual knowledge. Well, as far as I know anyway. But this post is to perhaps inform everyone that I don’t know anymore than I do before, – perhaps I know even less now. Life has brought me to a place of realizing that I know nothing,.. that Life is an experience. At one point, you think you got it all covered but in the next, you realized that all that you know are not only a load of bullocks but useless in being able to bring you to a point of feeling a little more better about yourself.

I have been extremely blessed for the opportunity to have recovered from my acute diagnosis of acute leukemia. I know I am meant for much more than what I have lived, and what I am currently living. In the midst of this knowing however, there is a great deal of learning, realizing, experiencing, threading the line, falling off the rope, climbing back up again, and repeat. I realize that I can only be a teacher in my own way of being, and behaving instead of words, and even this, I realized that I do fail from time to time again.

But what is failure, really?

I believe we fail only when we fail to be truthful to ourselves, to be honest with ourselves, and to fall short of being in integrity with ourselves. Even that however, is not entirely failure. You can only begin to learn from such experiences.

So the phrase ‘I have failed.’ is rather redundant. Rather, asking yourself ‘What is Failure to you?’ will serve you much more. From there, do yourself the favour and investigate if failure to you means falling short of other’s expectations of you, or, your own expectations of you. If you are living your life of the former, I highly suggest you to reevaluate your life unless you want to live your entire life living up to other people’s expectations of you which let me tell you, you will never ever be able to even begin to fulfill those expectations. However, don’t think you are off the hook either if failure to you means you failed to live up to your own expectations of you. Because that within itself spells a life of misery and doom arising out of unnecessary stress caused by the disease of perfectionism.

Oh will you look at that, we have gone a little out of topic so back on topic.

When I realized that I know nothing, not only is it one of the most scariest thing, but it renders a sense of loss, of everything that you have known and ever believed in. Probably because all the techniques which you are trying to apply to make yourself feel better are not working. And quite frankly, that’s okay too, feeling like you know nothing. It’s better to know nothing, than think you know the world, and remain stagnant wherever you are because you’re too arrogant to learn anymore.

Plus, I have no proper answer which might satisfy one who has a need for the perfect answer. The one way I know to make it easier for those of us in these circumstances , and might prolly’ even save your life is to take the easiest way out. Take the route that doesn’t restrict and restrain you emotionally. It might mean you needing to be entirely upfront and honest about your feelings. It might need you to walk away from the current situation you are in, like a job, or a relationship… I don’t know, but I am spelling out things which I have personally walked away from. And indeed, I have walked away from quite a number of things in my life and I will be lying if I say there is no drama after that.

But let me put it this way, drama comes when someone else disagree with you and tries to voice out their own opinions and feelings which might spell double trouble in the form of a huge ass argument or quarrel. Not something we all necessarily like or want to deal with, but it is also something that means growth. Not the arguments I mean, but growth is harnessed in your ability to be able to handle such disagreements and dramas, and your ability and courage to speak up for yourself.

Oh, and remember, if you don’t speak up for yourself, no one else would.

And if all else fails, perhaps chill, and have a drink, coffee, tea – whatever floats your boat. Though, I wouldn’t suggest alcohol because it has a way of making you feel worse the day after. The simple pleasures in life sometimes are already there for us to bask in, if we allow ourselves to get out of our minds, and just enjoy whatever that is in front of you in that moment.

You know, since you are already feeling bad, you might as well try something else, don’t you think? Rather than allowing your mind to go merry-go-round like a hamster on a wheel on that goddamn issue.

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Why Dishonesty kills, and Integrity wins.

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From my recent experience of Life, I have come to see that, that is a very common way of being wherein people feel that it is necessary to say something which is less than the truth, all in the name of survival.

As you already might know, telling the truth, and being honest isn’t exactly the easiest thing to do. It stems from the fear of what others might think of you, and it relates to our natural human desire to want to be socially accepted and fitting in. And what’s more, in the career line, and corporate society, it seems to me that it is more for the sake of being able to get that next promotion, or to get a better ‘deal’ if you like. It is for the sake of pleasing the other person who is higher up the rankings than you, so you can get yourself in their rated ‘A’ book.

Gosh, what a way to live.

Now, I realized I have changed much for as I grew older, I realized my capacity to say ‘no’ grew as well.
I stopped being willing to say ‘yes’ to things that goes against my gut feeling. I stopped filling my brain with countless doubts of ‘Am I wrong?, What did I do?’, to looking at things in an overall context, and preventing myself as much as I can, to be a victim of another’s moods.

That does not prevent me however to feel like as though I am caught in the scheme of things of being compromised because other people have a way of being and behaving which is completely unlike mine.

(Anyone else feels the same way?)

So for a while, I felt this ultimate sense of discomfort which gnaws at my gut and my heart. My facial skin definitely shows for it because I broke out in pimples far more than I could count in the last 2 months.

Now, here’s the thing.

I am a lover of the New thought, age old knowledge and wisdom, and indeed, it has helped me through my darkest times. However, what I have found is that sometimes, such New age or spiritual advice or wisdom has been overly abused where it is completely misunderstood and hence used wrongly.

So let’s talk about the age old advice of the New Age proclaimed “Self-love”; in the form of Integrity, in the context of Transparency, Truth and Honesty with yourself.

Now this is not about some overly abused New age or spiritual morally justified theory of ‘I love and accept myself, so I don’t need to care about what others think of me and so I am going to do my own thing, and you do yours.’. Nor is it about some fighting for the survival for your own personal viewpoints by insisting that you are right and others are wrong.

No, rather, this is a balanced, all rounded, grounded approach in managing your own values and expectations while at the same time being able to navigate your way around your daily life and relationships, and sometimes this really involves putting your feet down, and a hand up saying ‘Sorry, I can’t do this.’

Ultimately, it is up to you as to what you personally desire to uphold as personal principles and values.
For me, given my tolerance of dishonesty, and less than the truth and transparency has drastically reduced, I am much less willing to say or do anything that does not reflect the truth, even if the truth might not sound pretty. Nor am I willing to undertake anything which goes against the boundaries I have set for myself hence saying ‘No‘ has become a common occurrence recently.

And quite frankly, the sleepless nights ain’t worth it.

So let’s dissect a few simple ways on why the title of this article is at it is.

Why Dishonesty kills?

Who do you have to live with for the rest of your life when you push against your own integrity?

You.
Who lives with that burden of guilt, shame and blame?

You.

And we all know all of that creates some psychological impact on our mind and soul, which then can have a not so wonderful impact on our bodies.

And Why Integrity wins?

With enough integrity and value for yourself and what you uphold, I.e your principles and values, you will be more aware of situations where your integrity, self-honor might be wavered and therefore, you will be likely more inclined to put yourself in a better position to be able to handle it.

Oh, and you have nothing to hide. #SelfConfidenceTipNo.1

Also, why do you want to live with all the mental discomfort which dishonesty brings?
#IntegrityBringsSanity.

Listen folks, this is a touchy subject I agree, with being honest and transparent with yourself and others. I can already hear people saying ‘She ain’t know what she talkin’ about’ but seriously, take it from me.’
Nothing is worse than going against yourself, going against integrity with you, your principles and values, and being dishonest with you. And once you’re become good at being honest with you, I can bet that you will become a bit more uncomfortable with not being honest with others as well. So, you might want to start telling the truth to others as well then.

The more we do this, the more we get better at it. And if the more of us start doing this, the more we begin leveling out the playing field in the corporate world and in all your relationships too. And once being honest and transparent becomes a society norm, the world will then become a little bit better, if not a better place.

Note:
Being in integrity has resulted in a sense of lightness, freedom, instead of the feeling of burden and heaviness which have engulfed the author her whole adult life. Also, she sleeps better, lives a little more care freely without all the guilt and burden, and does not have to deal much with those horrible huge pimples breaking out overnight.

 

Jassica Nia xx

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Secrets, Lies, Truths – Being Honest with You

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Secrets.

In my life, and from what I witnessed and am still witnessing amongst the culture that I live in, I noticed that people have secrets.

Well, let’s face it.

No matter what society, or culture you come from, everyone, have secrets. Of course we do. And it’s not like we are going to spew our deepest secrets to the person we just got to know, or a stranger sitting next to you on the tube.

But what I am going to talk about is truth, to yourself, and then to the people closest to you. This also involves people you are involved in matters which matter in your life, activities which make up a whole lot of your life, i.e work, and in general, relationships you have going on with literally, everyone and everything.

Having said that, are you aware that relationships govern everything that is going on in your personal life?

Yes. Starting from your relationship with you.

So let’s start with that.  

Telling the truth to you.

And I personally learnt that, that can be the one most difficult to thing to do. But when applied into my life, I also realized that it can be the one most liberating thing to do for myself.

Sometimes, we are afraid to be honest with ourselves. Because we are afraid to lose everything we have ever known and the very thing we are trying to cling on to. Yet, the beauty with truth is that there is light which is shine on that which was once dark, unknown, or should it be said, perhaps something that was once.. refused to be acknowledged – for some of us.

I once read an article called Keeping Secrets – a Life Limiting Habit , an article which made me realize the dark side of keeping secrets. Of course, all of us always do something and behave in a way which is rational to ourselves. We always conduct ourselves in a way we deem appropriate, even if to another, it is not. So with regards to secrets, more often than not, I realized that keeping secrets is a form of trying to protect ourselves, rather than trying to protect the very person we are hiding it from.

Well, the thing is, no one wants to be lied to. In actual fact, no one really, wants to be withheld from a truth. But because most of us do that, i.e keep secrets, some of us tend to be more understanding of why another keeps secrets.

Now the thing is this. If we want to be told the truth and have no secrets with our loved ones, and this applies not only to love relationships, but all relationships in general, how can we make it easier for this phenomena to happen more frequently in our lives?

What is the real truth here?

The real truth is, sometimes, or in fact, most times, most of us do not react well to the truth.

While we might think we can handle it, but can we, really?

On this note, we might want to think about making it easier the next time, for the next person in our lives who open up and be honest about what they feel with regards to any issue. No matter how difficult it might be. #FoodForThought

Then again, it’s not our fault – for those of us who want to be told the truth, and for those of us who withhold the truth.

Our current education system does not teach us how to handle such sensitive situations.

Society does not teach us how to tell the truth, and to do it the right way. And society surely does not teach us how to be more accepting of other people’s views and opinions as well as being open to an outcome of a situation.

Even as I am typing this, I chuckle at how I could have handled such situations better. The first port of call is, do not under any circumstance talk about such sensitive issues through texts. #ExtremelyImportant #FirstLearningPoint

That might be overreacting a little, but you get the drift. 🙂

Telling the truth, or discussing a sensitive issue, as difficult as it might be for some of us, might require us to do it in person because sometimes, when we are within the capacity of the other, we convey much more than our words. Our body language says a lot about what we really feel.  So if you are really going to want someone who matters to you to get what you are trying to say, you better really mean what you say, and be honest and as open as you could possibly be.

Now, sometimes, in the communication of our truths, we get confused.. And that, is the real truth. Sometimes, we just don’t know what we want, and we are actually scared and lost.  

Now here is the next part.

Are you able to be okay with you?

Communicating truths to another is one thing, and is a tactful skill to be applied even in the most skilled conversationalist.

But the thing is, what actually makes telling a truth, and discussing sensitive issues so difficult?

Well, it could be due to the fact that we find it difficult to live with ourselves – with the real truth that lies within us.

We are not okay – with us.

When it comes to speaking of something that matters to me, and conveying what I really think about something, I found that what really bothered me is what others might think about what I think. It is ultimately the need to fit in, the need to please, and the need to want others to accept me in that what causes the friction and conflict within me when conveying my truth.

The learning point is this:

When I accepted myself, when I accepted what I think and feel, and that it’s okay for others to have their own opinions and viewpoints, and that not everyone is going to think the way that I do, I became okay and sure footed in conveying and sharing my truth.

There is no longer the need to “sugar coat” my words as there is no more need to want to make others accept what I think and wanting them to ‘like’ and accept me.

I became okay, and liberated in that everyone is entitled to their own opinion and with this thinking in mind, I have set myself free.

I became okay with the knowing that people might not like me, and might not even be comfortable with me being in their circle.

I realized that there is no need to put up with bull**** and things I do not agree with. That it is within my rights to communicate freely, but also realizing just as much that it is equally as right for others to express themselves and communicate their thoughts.

Having said so, there is a fine line between truly communicating our truths in an open and genuine way, and expressing what we think and feel in a manipulative, hurtful and blaming way. To even get into the subject of how-tos and to navigate around the ways of trying to express our truths might need more than a thousand five hundred and thirty one words as on this page so we wouldn’t get into that here. But the rule of thumb is, you will know by way of how you feel whether you are getting onto the manipulative, blaming line or you just really, genuinely, want to express how you feel, and what you think because you want to resolve an issue, or because you want to get what you feel out in the open.

Remember that when you are in such a situation, how would you think you would feel if someone else claims to tell you something of what they feel, yet seemingly blame you for it? Telling the truth is one thing. Doing it tactfully and with grace, is another.

Of course, this topic is very subjective, and requires a lot of maturity and wisdom to handle it. In fact, I think I could even come up with a lesson called “Navigating The Tricks and Trades of Telling A Sensitive Truth Course 101” – and study it in detail myself. 😛

Coming back to our topic at hand, at the end of the day, it’s not even so much about what others think of you. Everyone is wired very differently. Neither do you have the capacity to control how and what every single person in your life think of you. To try to attempt that will be not only unfruitful or unsuccessful but it will be one of an unnecessary, exhausting, never-ending spiral.

At the end of the day, you need to live with you. So to even begin learning to be honest with others, you might want to start by being that, to yourself.

When you are honest and more in acceptance of you, you might even begin to find that you will be more tolerant and respectful of others opinions and viewpoints and allow them… the space, to speak their truths…

 

 

Jassica Nia xx

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How the Law of Attraction can help you when YOU allow yourself to do what you Love

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I speak alot about doing what you love and really allowing yourself to push out of your comfort zone to allow yourself a step closer to doing so, but I speak from experience, and I am evidence that really giving yourself a chance that opportunity to do what your love is what is going to be that first thing that propels you forward!

Ever since taking that leap of faith of filming a not so great quality Youtube video, yet still having the courage to post it up (something which would have been exceedingly difficult for me to do even 6 months back), my life has propelled me forward and I have since found myself with opportunities that I could only ever dreamed of few years back.

I found myself in a place where I am literally put in a position where I re-found and remembered something which I could do for a living and love it to bits – creating music! And, I kid you not, THAT, came out of the blue. And apparently, my band mate wanted to ask me few months ago before he finally did, but perhaps the Universe is awaiting for me to show up energetically first before It could present to me what it has always wanted to give to me all along.

Ever since then, I have been literally led by Life, in all its funny schemes and ways, to people who guided me to the advices I need to hear for myself, and to signs which confirms to me what I already know inside. I already KNOW -, Life is just confirming it for me because it knows I am ready for it!

Also, I am so much more in possession of my own power, and at the same time am still able to connect and feel compassion for others, AND be truly authentic for the first time in my life.

And how does the Law of Attraction comes into play? 

It has a snowballing effect – you are essentially sending out a message to the Universe that ‘ YES! I am ready. Now go ahead and gimme what I really want!’

So  ladies and gentleman, these are just some of the perks from letting YOU, do what You truly want.
Let this be a nudge or a hint for you, to take that first step, if you haven’t already. I don’t gain anything from telling you all this, but I really want people to experience what I experience, and share the love too!

Spend some time during the day, even if its just 5 minutes, to connect with that space, or feeling of whatever you want to bring into your life. Sometimes, you might think you want something, but oftentimes, the reason you want something is because you think you will feel good because of it.

So, if you want to do what you love, know that it’s that feeling of love and expansion you want to bring in your life, so take some time out to connect with that feeling. If it’s the feeling of success you’re going for, then connect with that feeling of success. Really feel it throughout your body. It could be a feeling of gratitude, or even relief, for having resolved your debts and monetary problems. If it’s a relationship you’re looking for, don’t wait for that person to complete you rather, take the time out now, to feel the feeling of completion, unconditional love, appreciation, and the ultimate highest level of vibrational frequency, Love.

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What you need to know if you are not currently doing what you love

 

2 weeks ago, I filmed a video on a challenge on ‘Doing what you Love’. The week before that, I filmed my first YouTube Video.

Now, believe me, 6 months ago or even a year back, I wouldn’t have done that. Because I would have been too afraid. I would have been too fearful of what others would think of me, simply put.

Fast forward now, it is simply empowering to be in a place where you realized that doing what brings you joy is the most important thing you should do for You.  Fast forward 2 weeks later, my life is beginning to change in ways I would never have imagined, just by taking that first step and initiation to allow myself to do what I love. However, if you are a caretaker and you have responsibilities like we all do, then it might be difficult to even allow yourself to put you first.

But let’s look at it this way.

If you have nothing to give to yourself, then you have nothing to give to another anyway.

That’s not just a ‘maybe’ sentence, it is actually a fact.

If you are happy and filled to the brim with joy and love, that is when everyone else surrounding you will truly reap the benefits of the joyous and happy you.

Think that you are being selfish by being happy?

Think again.  

We are all energy transmitters and you are like a radio tower.

And being joyous and happy and loving are very high energetical frequencies of which will be broadcasted and emitted by you when you are feeling those emotions.

Need proof?

Think about the times how joyful people seem so much nicer to be around than down, and moody people. Sometimes you rather not be with them because… they just don’t seem too cool to be around with.

And no, that’s not your fault. While we would want to try to be compassionate and try to understand such people, but in the long term, it is not good for ourselves to be around negative places and environment. You will know whether it is good or bad for you, by the way you feel.

So, whether you are in a 9-5 job, and stuck somewhere doing something that you might not be entirely enthusiastic about, then it is time to allow yourself to do what you really want to do – be it part time, or only over the weekend if you really don’t have time. And that also includes your job around being a full time mother. 🙂

Remember,

When you don’t make time for you, no one else will do it for you.

 

So, what if I am not currently doing what I love and am in a job I really don’t like but I have no choice but to remain there ?

#1. You have a choice.

Taking no action is a choice. Staying wherever you are is a choice. And you might make that decision after an analysis of your situation and decide that staying put is the better than leaving for the time being. 

But what if I make a choice to stay wherever I am?

That is of course absolutely fine as I am assuming you are a rationale adult who knows what you are doing.

  • Do your best wherever you are, currently.

I highly encourage you to do the best wherever and however you can, and do it willingly, and as enthusiastically as you can. Good comes to you when you are open and willing to do something in a positive attitude rather than a negative one. You make better decisions too when you are much more optimistic and positive.

 

  • Stop splitting yourself in two.

The mistake that alot of us passionate pursuers make is that we put ourselves in a ridiculous position of ‘wishing to be there, but still here’. If you are still where you are for whatever reason, then make the best of what you have and where you are. Because it is what it is, and if you split yourself in two and have divided minds in what you are doing, then you are almost better off not doing it because firstly, you will tire yourself unnecessarily from that, and secondly, people will know when you are not giving your all and doing whatever you can which might not have pleasant consequences. 

When I say do your best wherever you are, I mean, really, do your best. 

Do it like as though you have chosen it.

Because take it from me when I say it, there is something almost extraordinary that happens when you do something to the best of your ability and put your whole heart into it, like as though you have chosen it. The energy you have invested will not go to waste. Yes, even if it’s not something you prefer to do at the moment. Somehow, you are paving the way energetically for something better to come your way.

And the Universe knows it. 

 

  • Start preparing for your transition. 

 If changing your line of job is in the works for you in the near future, then do whatever you can in your current line of job the best you can, and start preparing for your transition whether if it means preparing financially, emotionally and/or physically.

 

#2. Take the first step.

Whether it means reading that extra book per week, taking that dance class, volunteer work, or photography class, or if you want to start up your own business – perhaps even saving up for a nest egg to allow you some financial breather, that is still a step for you. Even if it means you are not currently in the position to make the full shift to what you really want to do, that should matter less now because you are already taking the first step.

It’s always about the first step, then the next, and the next, and the next and before you know it, you might one day end up where you are without even fully realizing it.

The key is to not start looking at your end goal and get all overwhelmed because you are not there now.

Stay in the moment and be focused with your current point of action, and be led to take the next step.

And remember, the Universe has got your back. When you take the first step and show that you are ready to do it, somehow, more opportunities will begin to start knocking at your door. How do I know that?

Experience, darling. At some point, I was exactly like a procrastinator who didn’t even dare to take the first step. But when I do, magic  happens. 🙂

Also, remember this.

A journey of a thousand miles begin with one single step.

When I started my healing journey, I took it day by day, hour to hour, minute to minute right down to the very second. Because each moment is all I have. Each moment, is make or break. And I can choose to be positive and be still with the knowing that I can get perfect health again, or succumb to the very disease that I was diagnosed by dwelling on negative, despairing thoughts.

 

#3. Make time for you.

It is highly important that you set priority for you to nurture yourself.

Why?

As I mentioned earlier, when you don’t set boundaries and prioritize time for you, I can almost guarantee you that no one else will do that for you.

It’s like you are stood over in front of Mac’ds counter and just gawking at the selection of burgers, but you are not opening your mouth and telling the person over the counter exactly what you want.

If you ask for fries, you won’t get ice cream. So make sure you prioritize and communicate to others who clogs up the house or just basically your time, that you need some time off to relax, chill, and to just do what you love.

 

Need more help in moving ahead with doing what you love? 

Let me know!

 

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My Conversion to Natural Skincare products

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As you would probably have seen in the first page of my webby, I spoke about Conscious Living and being more aware of the products we use in our daily lives. It wasn’t too difficult for me to make the decision to start using natural remedies for my facial routine because of the chemicals present in most of the facial products around nowadays which I really believe do not do any good for us in the long run.

While it is going to be a long story to go into why products nowadays can be potentially harmful, my thinking is, if you really look at what is going on in our world, one might want to be more cautious of products on the market and what goes into it, and also, the ethics, values and principles of the manufacturing company – because if you do some more researching on your own, you will find that our skin is an absorber of whatever we apply on it externally. I really don’t think there is a coincidence that illnesses and diseases are more common than ever before, of course due to various reason like food production the non natural way, but this also applies with more and more products being developed with chemicals that just does not go well with the body, and you might not even know it.

#Fact.

Our skin does an average of 60% of absorption of contaminant.

Look at yourself in the mirror and you will see that your skin is one of the main organs in your body. So it is not difficult to see how and why what we use on our skin gets absorbed quite easily into our blood and lymphatic system.

An example of nicotine patch which the wearer places on his/her skin to aid in giving up smoking is an example of a skin absorption phenomena. Also, I haven’t even gone into detergents which are also chockfull of ’em chemicals and yes, it is much better for your health overall to opt for natural and ‘eco friendly’ detergents.


toner-906142_960_720So, if you are one who is already someone who is conscious of healthy eating and you are a lady or perhaps you are a guy who likes to take care of your skin, then I encourage you to look at adopting more natural skincare remedies for your overall health. And yes that might even include makeup – something which I have to next venture into as I am a big makeup junkie.

Don’t forget that by doing so, you are also doing your part for the environment by supporting and encouraging demand for more of nature’s products which will play their part in increasing health consciousness overall. Of course, it will be great if the companies which produces such organic, natural goods have values and ethics which also supports the earth environment as well but this topic will be more off the scale than what we are here to talk about. 

 

 

First things first, how much will adopting a natural skincare regime cost me?

Now, assuming that you are somewhat like me who have to watch their finances,  then the first question that will come into mind is how expensive is this going to be?

The simple answer is: 

No. It is not expensive.

Reason

From what I have gathered, the normal ingredients which are used are mainly organic oils, ranging from sunflower oil, castor oil, coconut oil, jojoba oil or olive oil, raw honey, baking soda.

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Personally, I prefer coconut oil. So on this note, let’s say you decide to use extra virgin olive oil as an ingredient in your facial routine, or extra virgin coconut oil, and honey (I will exclude baking soda out because we already know it is cheap although if I were to use that, I would use organic baking soda. ). Common sense tells you that these ingredients are stuff you can use to cook and in your preparation of food.

 

If you invest in high quality extra virgin olive oil (EVOO), not only has it got a high smoke point which makes it good for any high heat/temperature cooking process but you basically reap the benefits of it both internally and externally. The same goes for coconut oil, although it has a lower smoke point than high quality EVOO but it is suitable for medium heat cooking process plus it also adds a wonderful flavour to your meals 🙂

And honey? Use that as a natural sweetener instead of sugar. Not to mention it is a good immune system booster as well. 

Price wise, I believe you either spend the same amount on these guys as you would on drug store skin care products . If you are one who uses those high end products, then you will know these natural ingredients are definitely wayy more affordable.  Yes, please think about it. 

 

How does this benefit me?

Some of the reasons are as I have mentioned in the beginning of this article. Like the same way one would choose to eat healthily, and opt for foods that helps the body heal, recuperate and rejuvenate, this is the same line of thinking except that this is in the form of external products. You have GMO foods, non organic crops which involves the use of pesticides and etc, and you have the naturally, organically grown crops. Crops which are grown in a land free of polutants, and the farmers are very much in line with conserving the environment as well as keeping their body wells by only growing natural products. Same concept for our facial products, toiletries, and etc. I prefer using an awareness campaign to encourage people to do something, and not a fear campaign so I do very much encourage you to do your own research into a topic like this.

 

 So now let’s begin to my personal alternatives for my current skin care regime. Now as most of us would, , first thing I did, was to go on a googling spree on what to use and what nots, and get ideas from people who are already using natural products as part of their skincare routine and here is what what I am using as natural remedies for myself which are cost efficient and affordable in the long run.

 

Makeup remover

Oil of your choice and that is it.download

You don’t need alot of it, and just enough to remove your makeup. Again, I personally use coconut oil because it’s the only organic oil I have on hand, and it does the trick. Plus it is good for the eyelashes since I use alot of mascara and it is hitting 2 birds with one stone so why not?

Oh and yes, you can apply coconut oil on your eyelashes too before sleep to promote hair growth and also to your hair for thick luscious locks. Now do you see why I have such high preferences for coconut oil?

 

 

 

Facial wash cleanser

Now what I personally use, which have seemed to worked for me so far because I have a skin combination of dry and sensitive with some parts of my face, namely the t-zone being slightly more oilier than the rest of my face is :

Coconut oil , organic, extra virgin, cold pressed and proper raw honey.  

Note: Please make sure that these guys are the proper stuff given that will be what you are using on your face. Reason is because, products like honey which are sold over this part of the world where I am living might not necessarily be raw honey and it’s pure, raw honey that will give you the benefits of basically everything we know honey promises really. To healing your skin, antibacterial functions,. I even tried it on ulcers during the time I was going through chemotherapy and it did work so it definitely works on cuts, although, yes it hurts like crap.

Basic Recipe

2 parts jojoba oil/coconut oil to 1 part of raw honey. i.e 2 tbsp oil to 1 tbsp honey

Directions

Mix or stir up these beauties so they combine beautifully and become some sort of paste you can slather them over your face. 

Give your face some good ol’ lovin by massaging the oil and honey mixture into the skin. (If you want to a more youthful skin, that helps to do it by improving blood circulation! However, gently. Please.)

Wash them off with water.

Tips and recommendations

#1. Use warm water. 

Prior to my knowledge of what warm water does to our skin, I literally ‘accidentally’ found that warm water seems to do wonders for my skin, rather than normal temperature water. And I will explain more so as we get further along in this article.

#2. Use a wash cloth/sponge.

It does the trick to wipe off excess makeup/dirt off the face, not to mention it feels like you’re giving yourself a mini spa if you get one of those cute soft sponges. 

#3. Get ’em shakies. 

The downside to these guys is everytime I use them, I need to stir them up, so what you might want to do is to put them into a little jar or bottle so you can shake them up before usage.

#4. Test it first.

I mix up a concoction of 2 tbsp of coconut oil and 1 tbsp or raw honey just to test it out for starters and I believe that lasted me for about 5 days to a week and slightly more. I recommend trying it out and testing small amounts concoction with coconut oil and see if it causes breakouts because I have read somewhere that it can. At first, I thought it was the case for me but as I did my tryouts, I found that it doesn’t apply for me – in fact, it seemed to have prevented and healed breakouts. 

 

 

Acne/Pimple treatment

I would never have thought of trying out this treatment and would used to shudder at the thought of applying oil to my face, but it never occurred to me that I have been using oil on my face in the form of tea tree oil to help in resolving an annoying case of pimples and zits breakout.

So yes, we are talking about Oil treatment here. You may choose to use this to give your face a good deep cleansing too, however I know of people who use this to cure and treat really severe case of acne so, if you have a similar acne issue, I say perhaps give this a go. 

 

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Yes. Don’t be afraid to use oil on your skin because oil itself alone actually doesn’t cause breakouts.

 

 

 

Now the secret to a really smooth and supple skin. 

Directions

Pour your selected oil on your palms, and massage it to warm it up.

Apply on the face, and here, take your time to massage the oil into your face, really working it in so your facial pores can absorb the oil in. Focus on the affected areas. 

Allow the oil enough time to be absorbed into your pores so when I say take your time, yes, take your time. 

Now this is what I call the “Hot sponge-over-face procedure”.

Dip the sponge or wash cloth in water which is warm, and I mean really warm , but not hot enough to scald your face. 

Place the hot sponge or wash cloth over the affected area, and hold it over that area for long enough until it cools or go back to normal temperature which shouldn’t take long. 

The key is this: You are essentially allowing the steam to open the pores of your face and releasing the impurities on your face which are causing those zits and acne. 

That, is also the reason why I suggested warm, warm water and not cold water because cold water does not help remove the oil on your face efficiently, nor does it help to open those pores to release those impurities which is the key to this oil cleansing method. 

Wipe your sponge or washcloth over your face gently, rinse it, and repeat for a few times. 

Your skin should feel warm, soft and supple and just basically, really nice…:)

Finish off either with a toner, but if your face feel tight like mine, then dab some of your chosen oil on your palms, rub them together to warm it up, and apply onto your face, massaging it in.

 

2. Honey Application

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I think there is much to be said about honey because it definitely has healing properties for cuts, and skin inflammations.

So for ’em zits, it is just as simple as dabbing some raw honey on the said areas, and leave it in for a while.

You might choose to sleep with it overnight, but I know honey can be kinda sticky so you might want to wash it off after 15-20 minutes.

 

 

 

 

Facial Rash and Irritation soother

Now I don’t know if itchy spots on my face are considered as a rash but I was having a really itchy face at one point and it was always something like little dots and bumps and spots which are super itchy and gets even worse if I scratch them. 

Using the same remedy for the facial wash cleanser, what I sometimes do with the coconut oil and honey concoction is to leave it on those affected parts for abit, say 5-10 minute. I believe some people use this as a mask 15-20 minutes, but due to a variety of reasons, I don’t leave it for that long. 

If you use the concoction of any oil that you prefer, (of course depending on how your skin is well suited for it so please test only small amounts on yourself first before adopting it as a complete skin care routine), and you wash it off with warm water, you will feel like as though your skin has already been moisturized which is the benefit of using the oil and honey cleanser.

However, what seems to do the trick to sooth any bumps and spots on my face, resulting in a happy, smooth and supple skin, is to use the Hot sponge-over-face procedure.

Make sure you literally steamed your face with your hot but not scalding sponge, repeating the procedure by washing off your sponge, dipping it in hot water again, and placing it over those affected areas until it cools down. Rinse and repeat, until you eventually wipe off the mixture from your face.

Finish with a toner, and a dab of the coconut oil over the affected as a protective barrier against dirt and dust.

I notice that so long as I properly moisturize my face, it doesn’t scream in protest by breaking out in itchy spots and bumps, so moisturizing, definitely helps. 

You might want to repeat this daily, or even twice a day until you see some results in your blemishes, rashes.

 

Toner

I have to admit that I have not found a recipe I really like for toner with the exception of apple cider vinegar.

And yep, I use Braggs organic apple cider vinegar.Braggs-apple-cider-vinegar-weight-loss-plan

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

With this, the recipe is 2 parts apple cider vinegar to 1 parts filtered water. 

Now for me, this mixture can be extremely drying because I overused it during my first try on my blemishes resulting in an extremely dry and tight feeling, uncomfortable skin. So naturally I did some research and I found out that this 2 parts to 1 mixture, is actually more for normal skin while my skin might be ranging on being sensitive skin.

So for sensitive skin peeps, mix 4 parts apple cider vinegar to 1 part filtered water. 

And yes I got something for oily peeps too, and that is 1 part apple cider vinegar to 1 part filtered water.

A word of caution I have is should you decide to try this out, try the 4 parts to 1 mixture first to see how your skin reacts to it, just in case. 

Remember, it is all about experimenting to see what works with natural skin care, and while it might be a pain, but I do believe it will be worth the while because you are indeed reducing your exposure to unnecessary chemicals where you know you can. 

 

Has this helped you in your quest for converting natural skincare regime? Let me know! I like to hear from you! xx

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3 key players to our Happiness and Work Efficiency levels!

In Life, all of us want the same things ultimately, Happiness, Love, Good Health and Abundance. And we all have our own personal ways of achieving what we want. 1fa14fb0

Hence, one of the things I am most passionate about throughout the years of my spiritual journey is playing around with the techniques of manifesting or creating my desires. It intrigues me, fascinates me and thrills the heck out of me. It is often a wonder really how it all works, and contrary to what I have believed where I thought that you need to have intense focus to manifest your desires, oftentimes, it is a blend of everything that is really what make everything flows.

I believe a lot of us would have experience some days where it can be especially tough and you feel like you are not even sure where you are going, and you just completely doubt yourself. I know that those are the days when I would be just so far removed from everything that I believe and know to be the ultimate truth.

So here’s the thing.

During such days, it is not that you are completely incapable of doing the best that you can, but the truth is, you are most likely just running low on fuel. I don’t quite believe you will tell your car off for running low on petrol, won’t you? Likewise, we all have our personal emotional and physical tanks of fuel where we sometimes find ourselves at one point just completely drained, tired and just plain exhausted.

And what’s the best part?

These emotional and physical fuel tanks of ours are indicators of what we need to do to fill it back up again.

These indicators are reminders to prevent ourselves to coming to an unnecessary ‘forced’ halt in the form of a possible physical breakdown where your body stops you from being mobile. That is also the reason why some people come down with a horrible bug and render themselves completely immobilized and needing to be confined to the bed for days at a time, or for worse case scenarios, an illness which stops devoid them completely of physical activities for a while. For such situations, it is often after years of doing everything that is against their emotional well being, which might have led to this. 

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It knows what you need. On days when you are completely drained, it is highly likely that all you need is a really good night’s sleep, or a lay in for the weekend. From my personal experience, it
sure works for me. And yes, even being a Miss Positive does not stop me from being drained and exhausted by the end of the week. It sounds simple, but I can count many people who won’t allow themselves such a simple thing which is required to recharge the body. Also, don’t forget to eat well, and make sure you are properly nourished via the foods you take. Food is medicine. Choose wisely.

Take time off for You

It is important that one takes time off for themselves, in the midst of the hustle bustle. It might mean you need to be firm about your schedules and stop being a ‘yes’ person.

Now, I suggest rather than viewing this perspective as being ‘selfish’, try seeing it in the perspective in that you can’t be of any help to another if you are feeling down, grumpy, moody and drained. As much as most of us want to help and be helpful, we often forget that since we are one of the main components to play in other people’s lives, putting ourselves first needs to be on the top few on our priority list because without us being rejuvenated, and energized, we are really of no use to anyone else, much less ourselves.

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The truth is, if you are not happy, and if you are not filled with enough love and joy and excitement for Life, you can’t really give much to another anyway.

I have always heard this sentence ever since the start of my spiritual journey, but it wasn’t until I truly and totally assimilated this knowing into my being in that I finally understand what this really means.

Contrary to what I have been taught in that, it is wrong to please oneself in doing what you love because ‘Life is hard’, it has been difficult to even allowing myself to all the goodies of Life. Hence, it certainly has been a journey to a point where I have finally learnt to stop feeling guilty for having and doing something that pleasures me. And may I add, the statement ‘Life is hard’ is a belief within itself. If you have been browsing about my webpage, then you will know that I am a strong advocate of  choosing only beliefs which serve you and make you feel better about yourself.

Sometimes, rather than being too caught up in our daily routine, take some time off to consciously focus on what makes us feel joyful and happy. Other than enough rest, and good nourishment, what feeds and stimulates our mind plays a major part in our emotional and physical fuel tanks, and ultimately our happiness levels. As a real work addict and someone who likes to push through the lines of what I can achieve, I found that I need to consciously remember to be in touch to what thrill my soul buds. The result is always a wonderful feeling of heart expansion, to me a clear sign of channels opening up for me to achieve more in my daily routine.

How does this relate to work efficiency?

If you are not already aware, how this all relates to work efficiency is that, when you take time off for you, when you allow yourself enough fun, and play time, the end result is a much happier, contented, and stimulated you. You will find yourself much more at ease, much more playful and hence resulting in a much more creative you. Usual problems and life’s tricky situations which occur will bug you less, and you will be more inclined to be in a position to maneuver around such situations without allowing them to get you down. 

On the relationship area, you will be much more well liked, and have an instant charisma attractor factor, all by just being a much more happier, well balanced and easy person.

And no, I am not a fortune teller. 

Try this for yourself and you will be your very own testament to this truth. 

 

Take a look at what thrills me! 

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